Paranormal Bullies, Jerks and Trolls…oh my!
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I am extremely proud to call myself a paranormal investigator. I am actually doing something with my life that I have wanted TO DO ALL MY LIFE! I am living out a dream and that is very special because I know a lot of people who can’t say that.
But I recently experienced something that I want to share with all of you. Let me start off by saying I am a playwright and theater actress. I have been living that crazy dream for over 15 years. So I have a pretty thick skin. As a writer and actor you learn to build walls to protect yourself from negative comments, like reviews or crappy directors. But one day all my protective barriers crumbled to the ground and that was a very painful experience.
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You see I don’t hide the fact that I love to wander around old, cold, creepy, dark and abandoned and hopefully haunted buildings, searching for answers from the dearly departed. My family and friends all know what I do. Nerd Alert!!! I even have a license plate bracket on my car pointing out my passion for the paranormal. So it’s no secret to ANYONE especially the folks tailgating me in bumper to bumper traffic on the 101 freeway.
So one day I was at a gas station pumping gas and this guy pulls up behind me and begins s to pump gas as well. I wasn’t paying him any attention, but I can only assume he saw my license plate because he suddenly yell “HEY” at me. Not hello or excuse me, but HEY! Now his introduction should have been the first indication that this guy was going to be an ass!
So he yells “Hey! Are you some ghost hunter or something?” I was excited. I really love talking about what I do. So I turned around, with a big smile on my face and I said “Yes I am.” And that’s as far as I got. Because he started to laugh. He laughed at me and said “That’s stupid” and he turned his back on me.
“That’s…Stupid.” Those two words hurt me more then I thought they ever would. I felt like I was NOT an adult woman, but a CHILD back in GRADESCHOOL and some dumb kid made fun of me and called me stupid. Talk about reliving childhood memories, right?! Anyway I was speechless. I didn’t know what to say or what do, so I did nothing. I quickly got in my car and I drove away. I was so upset that I was shaking and trying to drive at the same time. Note to self, be the best driver on the road that you can be and not a crazy hysterical female, because you have a license plate bracket with your website address on it!
I was so upset that this Jerk made an insensitive comment to a complete stranger. I was also upset at the fact that I let this guy get to me and actually made me feel embarrassed about what I do. Now don’t worry! That emotion only lasted like one minute because then I was absolutely livid that he pissed on my passion. And I was also mad at myself for not standing up for myself. But I am a non confrontational kind of gal so I am actually not surprised.
When I got home I reached out to my paranormal community, via social media, and I asked the question…“what would you have done if you were me?” And the outcome was amazing. I got such great advice not only from my para-peeps but non-ghostie friends as well! Here are some of my favorite comments and suggestions:
Feel blessed that you are not that guy, that you can believe in things that are not necessarily visible to the naked eye, and that you have imagination enough to seek those things that can’t be seen so clearly.
You could have said “I can also find assholes, apparently.”
He’s just ugly inside. Imagine living like that. Be thankful you’re not.
“Kiss my ass” would have an appropriate response.
I would have laughed back. This person would probably refuse to enter such a place because of fear. It takes a lot to do what we do.
Rarely we can’t change others perception of ourselves. It’s hard to let go of ego and not be hurt by others insensitive comments or behavior towards us. Realize that everyone has an opinion and they wont always agree with your yours. Continue to do what you love because in the end, that’s all that matters.
Paranormal researcher, paranormal investigator, ghost hunter, whatever you call it, is sadly still considered taboo to some. It’s a subject that many don’t understand or are afraid of, and that usually brings out the worst in people. Just like religion and politics, just add Ghost Hunter to that list. So there are going to be jerks, bullies, trolls that are going to try to knock you down.
And when it is something that you love, it’s probably going to hurt. I KNOW IT WILL! But know that you aren’t alone. There is a huge community out there just ready to support you. All you gotta do is ask.
And remember…Continue to do what you love because in the end, that’s all that matters.
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